There is a new girl in my daughter's class. She just moved on Monday, and my daughter was picked to sit next to her and make her feel welcome. Now, my daughter knows a thing or two about being the "new kid" in school. She started kindergarten a few weeks after everyone else, and three weeks later, she left that school and started once again at a new school. I never mentioned that she also started preschool late when I had posted about the Hockey Life vs. School. I am fortunate that my daughter doesn't know anything different, and she never seems to have a hard time getting right into the mix and making friends.
Anyhow, my daughter came home and was telling me about her new classmate. I was just packing her backpack for the day, and I decided it was a good idea to pass my name and our number along to the child's mother. (I seem to know a thing or two about moving to a new place also!) No more than 2 hours after school let out, I received a call from a
In preparation, I mopped the (tracked-in) salt off the floors, picked up clutter, wiped counters, and lit scented candles. Yes, my hope was that she would be amazed at the fact I keep such a tidy home! I never made it to the bedrooms upstairs, so I hoped she would not ask for a tour of our home. I would somehow have to keep her on the
I call this Blind Mommy-Dating!
She's Just Not That Into You...
this!). I pressed send, and was told they would contact me once I was "accepted". Accepted? I had to be accepted into this mother's group? Was I funny enough? Was I pretty enough? It took two agonizing weeks of self-doubt...
Then, I received my email. I had been accepted into the group. They liked me, they really liked me! I put the kids to bed, and began to read through the email. There were rules I had to follow...
1. You will be invited to mommy events...you may accept or decline the invitation.
2. If you decline, you will need to give a reason for not accepting
3. If you decline three times in a row, you will no longer be in the group! (I assumed it was to keep the events productive and well-attended. I had no problem with this...)
So, I started browsing the pictures of the other moms. You could click on the pictures, and read the submitted bios. I found myself clicking on the pictures of moms in the most superficial way...I was clicking on the moms who I thought looked like moms that I would like to associate with!!
<click> Sarah likes co-sleeping, does not like chocolate, and her children never watch television.<click> No Thank You!
I received my first invite...Breastfeeding Mothers Morning Tea...um, nope! I decline and give my reason."My children can pour their own milk, from a milk container"...<click>
I received my second invite...Baby-Wearing Mom's Bowling...um, nope! I decline and give my reason. "My children don't even need a stroller anymore, let alone a baby sling!"...<click>
I received my third (and final) invite...Vegetarian, Breastfeeding, Baby-Wearing Mom's who run Marathons...um, nope! I decline and give my reason. "I can only run 5k at a time!"...<click>
I was kicked out of the online mommy-group! I no longer Mommy-Date online!
Of course, there are great places to go out and meet other available moms:
- School Activities: This is a Mommy-Meat Market! Watch out for moms with mommy "business" cards...they are too eager, and far too organized. I like to find moms who write their number on empty candy wrappers they dig out of their purse!
- Parks: Usually these are moms who are stir-crazy and just have to get out of the house. Watch out for the super-playful mom...she is far too into being a supermom. I prefer the moms who have three or four celebrity gossip magazines for their reading enjoyment!
- The Gym: Anyone willing to exercise in exchange for an hour of free daycare is OK by me. The best is meeting the mom in the sauna...because there really is no rule saying you have to exercise for the full hour!
Now it is your turn. Where do you go to meet available moms? Do you have a great Mommy-Dating story? Please leave a comment and share! I will post the best story!