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Can we really be anonymous?

January 19, 2011

I am having a hard time with trying to be anonymous, but wanting to post pictures along with the stories I tell.  My husband does not know I have this blog, but then again he has been gone for over a month and he probably doesn't know a lot of things that have happened since the middle of December.

I don't feel that I say anything I wouldn't say to him, or that he hasn't already heard.  Just maybe, there are things I complain about on this blog that I have never voiced to him, as I usually try to keep my chin up and be a strong hockey wife.  My concerns for being open about who we are is as follows:
  • I would never want to publicly embarrass him.  Hockey is a big sport, and a small network.  Everyone knows someone who knows someone else.  You have heard of the six degrees of separation...hockey is more like two degrees.  
  • Hockey fans.  Most are just that, fans...but then there are a few that can sometimes cross over the line.  It is a strange thought to give them access to your family like that.  Do they really need to know my husband cannot fold towels the way I like them folded?  (that is just a hypothetical example...we all know my husband NEVER folds towels!)
  • Once somebody knows who you are...there seems to be a small group of blog-bringer-downers.  These are the people that like to dig into your personal life and try to make everything you blog about look like either a fabrication or a lie.  I have seen it done to many well-known bloggers.  It is kind of sad.  
So you put all of those things together and it can make a perfect storm.  On the other hand...it would be nice to not stay anonymous because...
  • I could post my pictures that go with my stories.  Blogs are always so much better with pictures!
  • There are a few things I would love to blog about...but I cannot because it would be a dead give-away of who we are and where we live.
  • I wouldn't have to be careful about things I write...while at the same time, it would probably make me pause and watch my words when I should bite my tongue.
I am going to start posting pictures, but protecting our identity.  How am I going to do this?   In true hockey fashion:

Our Wedding Day!

Thoughts?  I might just have to put goalie masks on our faces.  That is, until I discuss this blog with my husband...then maybe we will be able to remove our masks and face the world!!

What are your thoughts on blogging anonymously vs. publicly?  Which do you choose, and how did you make the decision?