Normally when I mention this, I get a look of shock from people. How could you not be friends with your husband on Facebook? I never thought it was a bad thing, but I would say 9 out of 10 people think it is strange! Maybe once I plead my case to you, you will get a better understanding of why I decided to ignore his "friend request".
CONSIDER YOURSELF SUMMONED TO BLOG JURY DUTY!
Ladies and Gentleman of the Jury...In the next few paragraphs, I will explain to you the reason my husband is not my friend on Facebook. I am sure once you look at all of the evidence, you will find that your only option will be to find me innocent of the charges brought against me!
EXHIBIT A: MY HUSBAND'S AGE.
My husband is almost fifteen years older than I am...he was being drafted into the NHL the year an ATARI was placed under my Christmas tree when I was six!
To say my husband is not the most computer-savvy person would be an under-statement. He has definitely come a long way since he first logged onto the internet in 1999...and he will be the first to admit he is not up on the latest tech toys. My husband did not join Facebook until last Spring! He rarely even looks at his FB page, and so he doesn't even notice we are not friends...I think!
EXHIBIT B: HE'S (KIND OF) A PUBLIC FIGURE.
I still am a little weary about Facebook. The fact that my husband is quite google-able (not sure if that is a word...yet!) makes me try to be careful of what is said. I have mentioned before (here) that Hockey is like two-degrees-of-separation!
I am always shocked when I see girls, who have husbands that work in hockey, saying things about the team or organization on their FB status! You never know who is friends of friends of friends on Facebook! Besides, this blog is airing enough of our laundry, and I try hard to keep it anonymous!
EXHIBIT C: EX-BOYFRIENDS & EX-GIRLFRIENDS =
I am not going to lie...I have ex-boyfriends on my FB (which my husband is aware of) and I am sure he has some ex-girlfriends on his FB. This is probably why most people assume we are not friends on FB. But for us that is not a big deal!! There is no room for jealousy in our marriage. We chose to marry each other after dating
forever over five years...We combined our DNA (twice) and made two pretty fabulous kids together, and I have moved twelve times in fourteen years for him! I don't need an accept button to prove my love!
I consider some of my ex-boyfriends...just that, friends. I liked them enough to date them...but then it just didn't seem to work out, so we parted ways. It doesn't mean that I am not interested in their well-being, current family-life, etc. I assume my husband feels the same way about some of his ex-girlfriends!
(Please remind me to tell the funny story of my husband and his ex-girlfriend that lives in the city we are currently in...that is a full post in itself!)
EXHIBIT D: VIDEO EVIDENCE!
Proof that Facebook is not good for a relationship!
I REST MY CASE!!
Question..are you friends with your significant other on Facebook?