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Valentine's Day Choreplay!

February 14, 2011

Today is Valentine's Day!  Do you have something romantic planned?  Whatever you do, make sure you include lot's of choreplay!

This summer, my husband and I were having a disagreement discussion, in which I pointed out that I do 90% of all housework.  Our conversation went something like this (it actually went exactly like this, but my husband will probably tell you it didn't)...I have included visuals.

"I do 90% of the housework around here!"


"You don't even know 60% of what I do exists!"

Maybe I am exaggerating a little husband doesn't really do 10% of the housework, it is more like 5%!  

I was reading the latest Chatelaine magazine (similar to Family Circle here in Canada) and they had a Question of the Month...
What's the most romantic moment you've ever experienced?
Of course, there were your typical romantic responses...One man made his wife origami roses since they were short on money, one man booked a babysitter and took his wife for a romantic weekend, one man cut out 100 hearts and wrote romantic things on each heart before hanging them in the living room, blah, blah, blah...

Then it caught my eye...a small submission from Joyce of Quebec:
"For me, nothing was more romantic than the day my husband told me he would start doing the laundry.  He's great at helping me--it means I fall back in love with him every day!"

Ladies...I am talking about CHOREPLAY!  According to the Council of Contemporary Families (CCF), the more men do around the house the happier women are.
The reward for menfolk who help out around the house could be more sex. "We sociologists generally don't go there, but therapists say there's a direct correlation" between men doing more housework and the frequency of sex, said Scott Coltrane, a co-author of the article.

In a fascinating article, Dr. Gert Holstege says...
Of course, it’s tough for a woman to chill out when she comes home from one job, only to be burdened by a “second shift” of cleaning, cooking, and chaos. In that scenario, sex is just one more task on her to-do list. The goal of choreplay: to move sex to the top of that list by helping her cross off some of the less scintillating items.

I have a few sexy suggestions to spice up your choreplay this Valentine's Day...

Nothing like an adult video to get into the mood!
From the book by Susan Anderson
Don't be afraid to use "toys"!

How about a sexy little outfit?
Have a happy and satisfying Valentine's Day!

Question:  Does your significant other give you enough CHOREPLAY?


Rancher Mom said...

My husband is retired and I can barely get 5% out of him! I blame his mother.
And I agree, helping with chores is way more romantic than origami hearts or chocolates. (chores and chocolate would be 10x better though!)

Heather (The Menu Mama) said...

My husband is so helpful with the chores (his mom raised him right, haha). And I do think it helps with our love life for sure. Another thing that usually works for him is if I am objecting to a little fun because of all the stuff on my to-do list, he will offer to help "after". Just knowing I don't have to do everything by myself is usually enough to convince me! :-)

Mrs K said...

My husband is really good at doing household work..but unfortunately he doesnt live at home during season so I would say that I do around 90%:)))

Katie said...

Stopping by from Mingle Monday - what a GREAT post! I recently became a law student, and my husband has been WONDERFUL about doing dishes and laundry now that I'm super busy with school work!

Happy Valentines Day!

Jessica said...

Saying hi from Mingle Mondays! Wow, I will definitely have to share this post with my fiance! I approve though, and after taking a marriage institution class last semester, can attest to the second shift stuff.

Big Fat Gini said...

Not gonna lie, I love the Porn for Women book. So much that I bought Mr. BFG a copy!

I hope you're the same Tales of a Hockey Wife who stalked me all afternoon! If you are, hey there and thanks! If you're not...uh, awkward.

Tales of a Hockey Wife said...

Yes BFG..It is the same one, and I love your blog!!!

Crystal said...

This is SO funny!!! Choreplay sounds like a great idea. Actually though, when hubby picks up the broom....I am slightly turned on!!

Jen said...

Oh my! Choreplay...that is so funny. My boyfriend folded my laundry one time. It kind of freaked me out at first, but I am sure down the road I will be grateful he does that!

By the way, thanks for stopping by my blog earlier!

Mika said...

That's hilarious!! I'm lucky....mine sometimes won't sit
down because he's busy cleaning out a drawer or closet or something. That can make you crazy too though. ;)
I'm following from the blog hop.
I'd love a follow back at

Jodi said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog. Glad you like the makeover. I've checked out your blog before (and the cute pics) but now I'm following!

michelle said...

Hey there! Stopping by from Mingle Monday and after seeing your lovely comments on my blog so many times...sorry it took me so long to check you out, but totally glad I did:)

lovinangels said...


In fact, our plumbing "breaks" every time I ask him to do any dishes.

Nicole said...

Sadly, I'm the one begging for more bedroom time in my relationship. However, I do lack in the romance department. When my husband sent me chocolate covered strawberries for Valentines Day, I said, "What I really wanted was a garage door opener."