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You say "Obsession" like it is a bad thing.....

February 29, 2012

Maybe you recall this post.  Maybe you participated in the Live Chat on my blog while we watched this show together.





The channel that allows us to peek into the homes of hoarders, watch a woman drink nail posh, and introduced us to Go-Go Juice and Honey Boo-Boo has done it again. Ladies and Gentlemen, I introduce to you...





This new show debuts on Wednesday March 7th on The Learning Channel (TLC)!  Unfortunately, I am working that night...but thank the Lord for Tivo!

The Good Wives Guide...HWT style!

February 25, 2012

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The last few days I have had Michelle Duggar's (19 Kids and Counting on TLC) tips for being a good wife on my blog.  I decided to respond with my own reactions, thoughts, and agreements. Be sure to read some of the comments left for this post....and leave your own thoughts as well! 


1.  A husband needs a wife who respects him as a man: A woman destroys her husband's manliness by "being financially independent; love is killed by self-sufficiency."
I do agree that a marriage is based on a "dependency" that is EQUAL to both sides...but destroying his manliness is going a bit far! I know of a couple that could tell you about "destroying manliness"! 


2.  A husband needs a wife who accepts him as a leader and believes in his God-given responsibilities.
...And on the eighth day, God gave man responsibilities.  These did not include sitting on the couch watching golf while his wife cleaned the kitchen! 



3.  A husband needs a wife who will continue to develop inward and outward beauty: Your hairstyle, for example, can show "obedience vs. defiance" and "personal discipline vs. inconsistency," among other things.
HUH?



4.  A husband needs a wife who can lovingly appeal to him when he is going beyond his limitations and wisely respond to those who question his ideas, goals or motives: "Ask your husband to tell you when you have a resilient spirit; ask forgiveness whenever you do."
So it is OK to point out when he is doing something stupid?  I can agree with that.  But if someone else points it out, I better stand up for him...even if they are right about my husband? Once I point out his faults, I need to apologize for doing so?

5.  A husband needs quality time to be alone with himself and the Lord.
Michelle, I have a feeling when your husband has been in the shower for more than ten minutes it is not the Lord he is thinking about!

6.  A husband needs a wife who is grateful for all he has done and all he is doing. "Expect nothing and be genuinely grateful for each little evidence of your husband's love."
I get this one...I usually expect that nothing will be done around the house on a day he is alone with the kids...and I am genuinely grateful if the dishes made it from the table to the sink!

7.  A husband needs a wife who will be praised by other people for her character and her good works.
I guess that would be preferred than being married to a woman that people think is a B*TCH!

Talk Amongst Yourselves....

February 23, 2012

Michelle Duggar (mom of 19 kids that all start with the letter "J") spoke to women at a conference and passed along a few tips about the role of a wife in a marriage.  Go ahead and read these tips and talk amongst yourselves.  Tomorrow I will give you my thoughts about each tip...HWT style! 

 

1.  A husband needs a wife who respects him as a man: A woman destroys her husband's manliness by "being financially independent; love is killed by self-sufficiency."

2.  A husband needs a wife who accepts him as a leader and believes in his God-given responsibilities.

3.  A husband needs a wife who will continue to develop inward and outward beauty: Your hairstyle, for example, can show "obedience vs. defiance" and "personal discipline vs. inconsistency," among other things.

4.  A husband needs a wife who can lovingly appeal to him when he is going beyond his limitations and wisely respond to those who question his ideas, goals or motives: "Ask your husband to tell you when you have a resilient spirit; ask forgiveness whenever you do."

5.  A husband needs quality time to be alone with himself and the Lord.

6.  A husband needs a wife who is grateful for all he has done and all he is doing. "Expect nothing and be genuinely grateful for each little evidence of your husband's love."

7.  A husband needs a wife who will be praised by other people for her character and her good works.

A Valentine's Day Repost - CHOREPLAY!

February 14, 2012

Today is Valentine's Day!  Do you have something romantic planned?  Whatever you do, make sure you include lot's of choreplay!

This summer, my husband and I were having a disagreement discussion, in which I pointed out that I do 90% of all housework.  Our conversation went something like this (it actually went exactly like this, but my husband will probably tell you it didn't)...I have included visuals.

"I do 90% of the housework around here!"

"90%?"

"You don't even know 60% of what I do exists!"

Maybe I am exaggerating a little bit...my husband doesn't really do 10% of the housework, it is more like 5%!  

I was reading the latest Chatelaine magazine (similar to Family Circle here in Canada) and they had a Question of the Month...
What's the most romantic moment you've ever experienced?
Of course, there were your typical romantic responses...One man made his wife origami roses since they were short on money, one man booked a babysitter and took his wife for a romantic weekend, one man cut out 100 hearts and wrote romantic things on each heart before hanging them in the living room, blah, blah, blah...

Then it caught my eye...a small submission from Joyce of Quebec:
"For me, nothing was more romantic than the day my husband told me he would start doing the laundry.  He's great at helping me--it means I fall back in love with him every day!"

Ladies...I am talking about CHOREPLAY!  According to the Council of Contemporary Families (CCF), the more men do around the house the happier women are.
The reward for menfolk who help out around the house could be more sex. "We sociologists generally don't go there, but therapists say there's a direct correlation" between men doing more housework and the frequency of sex, said Scott Coltrane, a co-author of the article.

In a fascinating article, Dr. Gert Holstege says...
Of course, it’s tough for a woman to chill out when she comes home from one job, only to be burdened by a “second shift” of cleaning, cooking, and chaos. In that scenario, sex is just one more task on her to-do list. The goal of choreplay: to move sex to the top of that list by helping her cross off some of the less scintillating items.

I have a few sexy suggestions to spice up your choreplay this Valentine's Day...

Nothing like an adult video to get into the mood!
From the book by Susan Anderson
Don't be afraid to use "toys"!

How about a sexy little outfit?
Have a happy and satisfying Valentine's Day!

Question:  Does your significant other give you enough CHOREPLAY?










How to lose your Valentine with one gift!

February 11, 2012

This post is for the men out there.

It's that time of year..the dreaded 14th of February is on it's way, and I am sure the panic to find the perfect gift has settled in.  Valentine's Day is a make-it or break-it event for all of you!  Get the wrong gift and you will be forever shunned to the Dog House.

PART ONE:






PART TWO:





I saw this commercial today, and I felt I needed to give you a little warning....DO NOT ORDER THESE! This is NOT a Hot Valentine's Day Gift, as the commercial claims it is!




Why do I think of this when I see the pink Hoodie Footie?




 

Do you have another item that is a MUST NOT for your Valentine? Share it with me and I will put it in an upcoming Valentine's Day post. I would love to do a top ten list of the WORST GIFTS FOR VALENTINE'S DAY...



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Something to talk about?

February 10, 2012

I am going to host a live chat on my blog tonight 6:00 pm for those of you on the West Coast and 9:00 pm for those of you on the East Coast! 7:00 pm and 8:00 pm for those of you living right in the middle!


Grab a bag of chips with a drink and settle onto the couch in your finest yoga pants and stained T-shirt!  This is a great way to meet fellow bloggers and tweeters that you have seen floating through the social media universe.

As always, I like to offer a "topic" for all of us to answer as we join into the live chat.  It is a great way to get the conversation going....

What celebrity do people tell you you look most like?


If you cannot make it at 8:00 CST/9:00 EST, feel free to join in at anytime....these chats have been known to go on for a few hours!











Guess who's coming to dinner...?

February 8, 2012

Thanks for all the great questions...

Tonight I thought I would answer two of them in one post....

My first question was this:

How do I nail down the Hockey Player of my dreams?


Hmmm, how do I answer this?  Seeing that I never had a hockey player in any of my dreams...unless the dream looked a little like this....

In all honesty, I didn't even know my future husband was a hockey player when I met him...but I do know I could hear Handel's Hallelujah chorus in my ears as I walked toward the blinding light that was shining behind him.
 I assume however, the type of hockey player you are interested in "landing" would be more of a young player with a seven-figure paycheck...not the older-about-to-retire hockey player that I nailed-down!  Who wouldn't want to date someone who makes 2.5 million dollars per year to play a silly game on ice?  Sign me up!
If there was a dating site for finding hockey players, I would suggest an ad that looks like this:

Single female seeks a loving relationship with a big contract heart.  I love moving twice a year, living in hotel rooms, and enjoy being alone while you travel.  I come from a wonderful family that I could care less if I only see once per year, and the Masters Degree I earned was just for fun.  I love the idea that other women have no regard for our relationship, and I enjoy reading horrible things online about the people I love.

The second question was this:

What was your parent's initial reaction to dating a "hockey player", and how do they feel about him now?




Remember how I said it was love at first sight?  The night I met my future husband, I went home and signed into my AOL dial-up account to look up his last name on the team website.  I couldn't remember it to save my life. I definitely called my BFF and told her I met the man I was going to marry, and the next day I popped my head into my dad's office and I asked him this question...

"What would you say if I dated a hockey player who is much older than me?"

My father's response was typical and full of sarcasm (I think)..."Is he rich?"

My father had always told my sister and me..."If you are going to study, study in the law library and the medical library!"  The most humorous part is that I met my husband in a bar called The Library!

Since I was twenty-one at the time and my future husband was thirty-five, that was much more shocking to people than the fact he played hockey for a living.  (Remember, I was from a city that was not a big hockey town, so dating a hockey player was not a big deal.)

My family was not shocked about the age difference, as I have always dated older boys...(I was fifteen when my first real boyfriend was eighteen) (I was nineteen when I dated a thirty-four year old) (I was twenty when I dated a MUCH OLDER MAN)...so there really were no raised eyebrows once I began dating my future husband!

Funny story, my uncle is the same age as my husband, and one night he was at a game. His friend had on my husband's jersey, and so my uncle told him how (my husband) was going to be his nephew.  The guy didn't believe him because my husband was the oldest guy on the team, if not in the league.  I definitely tease my husband about my "Uncle Bob".  My husband refuses to call him his uncle!

The truth is that my husband is the nicest man you will ever meet.  He is respectful and comes from an amazing family. Although I have moved away from my family...I think my parents are quite pleased with my choice of a husband.  I married my husband because I fell in love with a man who happens to play hockey.  To me, my family and our friends, my husband is just that...my husband.    

Sometimes you need to watch your words...

February 6, 2012

Dear Gisele,

Sometimes, you need to watch what you say.  Maybe you missed this post of mine. Right at the bottom of the post, I lay out some ground rules for dating or marrying an athlete.  NEVER SPEAK ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE NOT FOR OTHERS TO HEAR!  I am sure Tom gave you quite the talk this morning when this video surfaced.






I know it is tough to hear horrible things yelled about your husband.  It is always disappointing when your husband's team loses, especially a championship game.  But for goodness sake...DO NOT TALK POORLY OF YOUR HUSBAND'S TEAMMATES!  Even if your husband has voiced a few negative things in the privacy of your home.  This makes YOU look bad and your HUSBAND look bad.

Even though I am anonymous on this blog, if you were to go back and read every single post, I never say anything that could come back to haunt me about my husband's team or players.  I always make sure when I write my posts...I imagine the GM of my husband's team reading it.

So Gisele...I hope you have learned a lesson, and your husband is able to return to Boston and clean up your mess!

You ask, I will answer....except for that!

February 5, 2012

I am opening up my next post to a few of your questions.  Go ahead, ask me a question and I will answer it.  (But I won't answer THAT question. You know...the one about who my husband is).

The truth is, I have all these great ideas for posts swirling around my brain, and for some reason I cannot find the motivation to post them.  So I was hoping for a little help from you.  Do you have a question for me?  Maybe you have a question for my husband? Or maybe an idea for my next post?  Then ask away, and I will answer....

send your questions to  Tales of a Hockey Wife